STOP COMPARING YOURSELF ON SOCIAL MEDIA
It’s ridiculous to say, “it was social media’s fault that I developed an eating disorder”. Illogical, that is. But, in huge honesty, it wasn’t a great help either. Don’t get me wrong, social media is one of the biggest parts of my life currently, but that doesn’t mean that it didn’t almost nearly destroy me at one point. How was this, you ask? I was comparing myself to the fitness models I saw, craving to look like they did, and overworking my body in order to reach the impossible.
I didn’t realize how much of an influence scrolling through Instagram every free second I had really had on my body and mind.
I was always looking at perfectly shaped bodies, cellulite-free legs, and well defined six pack abs; and this became my definition of “normal”. I saw these great looking women and dreamed to be like them. Without even realizing it, this obsession slowly and progressively engraved these illogical images in my head.
YOU’RE ACTUALLY ENOUGH
“She’s skinnier. I should workout like that. She’s drinking that tea, I have to go get that tea.”
We’re all guilty of this, getting so attached to the comparison game. We see this girl on social media, with the perfect body, boyfriend, and exciting life. With this, we immediately decide that we aren’t enough, our lives aren’t as perfect nor exciting as everyone else’s.
Constant comparison is slowly destroying us by reinforcing the idea that we aren’t “enough”. When comparing yourself to someone else, you’ll never be satisfied. Believing that “if only I had (insert unrealistic goal), then I would be happy and my life would be amazing”, is illogical.
THE VICIOUS COMPARISON CYCLE
This is an alarming, never-ending cycle because if you compare, you’ll never be satisfied. There will always be someone better or someone who has what you don’t and with this, you’ll always view yourself through an unattainable window. Don’t get me wrong, you could indeed reach whatever you want to attain, but then another image will take over, and you’ll start the cycle all over again. That’s exactly why you need to stop comparing yourself on social media.
With this, we believe we should look like those women we see online, but oddly enough, those women don’t even look like that themselves most of the time.
How then, can you break the cycle? Just stop. Call everything out, be honest and accept the reality of what your life is. You don’t have to pretend like your life is perfect because noone’s life is.
Everyone will always show their best face and moments, and it’s important to fully understand that not everything we see is what we see. Let me expand. So many things happen behind the scenes of a simple Instagram picture that the general public doesn’t know about. Editing, extreme diets, extra exercise, Photoshop, and so on. Keep in mind that a grand amount of public “models” don’t look exactly as they portray themselves on social media. With this, we believe we should look like those women we see online, but oddly enough, those women don’t even look like that themselves most of the time.
Of course, a model’s job is to look fit and be pretty, then post it online. If we were to all be models, we would have the time and money to post these “perfect pictures” of our lives.
But for the grand majority of us, our lives are so much more than that. So many other aspects represent who we are.
FIGHT COMPARISON WITH SELF LOVE
Stop comparing yourself on social media and constantly checking for what’s missing in your life, instead, celebrate the aspects you do have, and work for those that you don’t.
So… acknowledge who you are. Accept the fact that you believe other people’s lives are better than yours. After you do this, take those thoughts and send them flying out the window. Love your body for what it is and be proud of it. Stop checking social media for what’s missing in your life, instead, celebrate the aspects you do have, and work for those that you don’t. We often get so wrapped up in what we’re missing, that we forget the amazing things life has provided us.
TAKEAWAY: YOU ARE ENOUGH THE WAY YOU ARE 🙂
Stop comparing yourself on social media – I did and it was the best thing I ever did for learning I’m ENOUGH the way I am. My arms are not “lean”. I don’t have the best grades. And my life is not a fantasy.
But, who cares? That’s MY life, and I’ll work with what I have to be the best me I can be. I am my own motivation. I won’t give up because my life doesn’t look exactly as I would want it to. With time, I can mold it and see the amazing things I can reach. There’s really no rush. I’ll enjoy the process and learn from it, because if not, what’s the point?
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